“Mom, what do you want for Mother’s Day?”

Every year a week or so before Mother’s Day my daughter asks me what I’d like for my special day. Usually I tell her that every day is Mother’s Day. That I’d like a beautiful card & maybe breakfast in bed.

This year my kidlet headed me off at the pass. “Mom, don’t tell me that my love for you its good enough. I want to buy you a GIFT!”

So, now  just days before Mother’s Day, I have to think of what my daughter can get me that won’t break her little bank.  I’ve received tons of press releases with suggestions/promos but none personally float my boat (I’ll post them later).

I’m taking her to La Boheme the following week, so I thought about suggesting she treat for our lunch. Or perhaps a joint mani-pedi, but I think I may want to go back to our earlier years & ask her to make me a coffee mug. The one she made me 4 years ago is a bit cracked & definitely worse for the wear, but I’ve enjoyed every sip of coffee I’ve ever taken from that mug.


3 thoughts on ““Mom, what do you want for Mother’s Day?”

  1. Dear Janet – I’m a lousy Dad – Spent my entire life hunter-gathering for the brood. So, I think the most important thing for Mother’s day ( and father’s day ) is that your girl gives you some of that thing which is most precious to her – and to you – and that is some real, lasting, quality time. That you each devote the entire 24 hours quietly celebrating the delicious friendship you should have, which in your case I am sure you have; ( and which in my case is totally on hold because mine grieve for their step-mother, whom they adored, and blame me for her death – which was the actuality of the Great Spirit gathering in His very own — ) so, you DO things together, it has nothing to do with gifts – gifts are a form of down-payment, relationships should be based on shared values, shared happiness, shared hopes, shared gratitude for the amazing experience of being here and having each other. So, a lovely, loving, friendship time. Remembering that true love is really a magic pudding – no matter how much you give, the pudding remains whole, indeed even grows – now there is a true miracle. Yours, Allan & Helen

  2. @Allan. You have a huge amount of guilt to deal with there. But don’t project it onto other people. Her daughter wants to give her a gift. The gift symbolizes love. I am sure the Great Spirit, male that he apparently is, approves of symbols of love.

    As to the gift, I think your daughter should buy what she wants to give you to symbolize your relationship as mother/daughter. It is her gift to you. Not your gift to you paid for by her.

    To not know what to give you is to either not know you well enough which means you have lost some closeness or to not want to bother to put the thought and time into findnig the gift which means your relationship have lost some meaning.

    “It is the thought that counts”

    1. Jen & Allan – you are both well-intentioned. My daughter & I have a joyful, love-filled relationship. We are very close, spend lots of time together, & so I can see that the intention of light-hearted cuteness didn’t come through in my post. It is always great to have reminders that love, intention & quality of relationship are what is important. P.S. Coffee mug update: Much as I’m attached to the memories associated with the making of said mug, my daughter thinks that idea is lame & is figuring it out herself. Apparently, I just have to drive.

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